17 days... that's how long Henry was in the NICU
at Cincinnati Children's Hospital. While in the midst of our stay in
the NICU it seemed like it was never going to end but now on this side of it I
found myself saying we were "only there for 17 days". There are
babies that arrived in the NICU weeks before Henry and they are probably still
there. I had no idea what to expect of the stay in the NICU but I can tell you
our stay in the NICU was nothing like I assumed it would be. I will never
forget what it was like being in the NICU for 17 days. The sights, the sounds,
the smell the experience is burned in my memory forever.
The first time I
saw Henry in the NICU it hurt my heart to leave and head back to the hospital
where I was still working on recovery but each day it got a little easier and a
little easier. We would stay for a few hours at a time, take a break and then
go back for a few more hours. I think the thing that made it easy for me to
leave Henry were the nurses. These woman (and men, although Henry never did get
a male nurse in the NICU) come along side of your family in the midst of the
chaos and they provide stability they provide guidance. I felt a great
sense of peace when I would walk away from Henry's bedside each night because I
knew he was being cared for by people who cared about him. I cannot
speak enough about the Doctors, Residents, Fellows and Nurses that followed
Henry while in the NICU they made our stay a little less anxious.
Next to bringing
Henry home the greatest thing I walked away from the NICU with was a new
perspective. Simply put: Henry just has Spina Bifida. I never thought I would
get to the point so quickly in this journey where I would find myself
thanking the Lord for Spina Bifida. But when you spend 17 days looking around
the NICU and you see babies that weigh little more than a bag of potatoes and
they have tubes coming from every nuke and cranny of their tinny
bodies, it changes you. You can't walk away from the experience unchanged - you
just can't. You go into it not knowing what to expect but leaving with a huge
dose of humility. You see other mothers sitting in the waiting room with what
looks to be the weight of the world on their shoulders because they've just
been told there may be no hope. Or you see babies without their mothers because
they have been flown in from other cities, states, and even countries. You hear alarms going off and nurses who go
running into other pods and you find yourself just humbled before the eyes of
the Lord.
I spent 17 days
sitting in the NICU praying for healing over my son but finding myself also
praying for healing and hope for each of the families I met while there. I know
there are always going to be people who will look at our life and think "I
don't know how they do it - it must be so hard." I know there are going to
be hard days, hard conversations, waiting rooms, hospital rooms, MRI images and
words that are too big for me to comprehend or spell, but it is my prayer that
I would always ALWAYS be able to check my attitude at the door because it's
just Spina Bifida. I was able to bring Henry home- not every mother that leaves
the NICU has that opportunity.
"Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, 2 then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. 3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves,4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others." Philippians 2:1-4
"Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, 2 then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. 3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves,4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others." Philippians 2:1-4